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I think about that quote a lot lately, almost every time I watch the news in fact! ‘From the moment you can express this creative potential, you can start changing the world.’ Watching the news and keeping up with current events, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless. But it’s important to remember, we all have the creative potential to start changing the world.
But why are so many people so afraid of the idea of creativity? Perhaps it’s the idea that to be creative is to relinquish control.
Matisse famously says: Creativity takes courage.
And Joseph Chilton Pearce adds: To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.
Picasso adds to that: The chief enemy of creativity is good sense.
To allow oneself to put aside that part of us that is in control, that is logical and rational is a scary thought. For those of us who have worked so hard to keep everything ordered and in control, the thought of relinquishing this control is scary. But I love the image created by Lady Gaga about letting go to access one’s creative spark:
When you make music or write or create, it’s really your job to have mind-blowing, irresponsible, condom-less sex with whatever idea it is you’re writing about at the time.
A lot of research is also pointing to curiosity being an important key to unlocking creativity:
In order to spark new levels creativity as adults, we need to get back in touch with our childlike curiosity. We need to observe, explore, ask questions, and again venture into the unknown — Andrew Merle explains in a recent article in Huffington Post: Why Curiosity is the Key to Break Through Creativity.
Along with fear of losing control, a great many people believe that they aren’t creative, that they ‘don’t have a creative bone in their body.’ The sad truth is that many of us have been shamed out of even trying to access our creative spark. Some of us have even been taught out of our creativity. Sir Ken Robinson explains this beautifully in his popular TED Talk: Do Schools Kill Creativity?
The reality though is that we are ALL born creative, we all have that creative potential. Yes, some of us are more artistic than others or more talented in certain areas. But all of us are creative.
Creativity is not found just in the chosen few who exhibit artistic talent. It is a force that flows through every single one of us, allowing us to dream things up and make them happen.
“To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.”
― Joseph Chilton Pearce
I love that quote by Joseph Chilton Pearce. And I’m feeling that a lot at the moment – having to lose that fear – as I see my own stuff out there. This book tour, the interviews, the articles, have forced me to get over that fear of being wrong. I have to be so out there, so transparent. I have nowhere to hide!
In my latest interview with Sally Hubbard, I talk about getting creative and getting into flow to find our inspiration.
“Being creative is much easier than trying to meditate or spend time just being quiet. Then they get their inspiration and their connection to self and they can be in that flow and get their ideas, their inspiration, their juices flowing.”
I’m going to make this post a bit different – this time instead of writing the post, I will attach a podcast. The podcast is an interview with Sally Hubbard, creator of Women Killing It!
The technique of using your imagination to create what you want in your life. There is nothing at all new, strange or unusal about creative visualization. You are already using it every day, every minute in fact. It is your natural power of imagination, the basic creative energy of the universe, which you use constantly, whether or not you are aware of it.
We do this everyday, so we may as well do it consciously. I have found that the best and most effective way to do creative visualization is to first create a sacred space to work from.
A huge thank you to my son Devin for his amazing music. Devin composed and performed and uploaded this original music for my visualizations. The music is absolutely mesmerizing!
Please give yourself 20 minutes to complete this visualization; and I suggest you take time to journal about it afterwards, making note of anything that might have stood out for you – a color, an unusual image, etc. This is the same sacred space that you will go to for all future visualizations from my book, so take the time to create the perfect space for yourself. The more you practice, the easier it is to do. Enjoy!
I would love to hear any feedback about how this visualization was for you; I always love hearing about people’s experience with creative visualization. And as always, thank you for stopping by, I appreciate it.
My dear friend and business partner, Deb Brock, is such a creative being. I love being around her when she is in Flow. in the zone, just creating. Being able to get into that place, that zone, I think is key to connecting to that deepest sense of self. And when we connect to that deepest sense of self, that is where we find our answers.
“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
― e.e. cummings
We can risk curiosity! Isn’t that a wonderful way to put it?
To risk curiosity, we have to believe in ourselves, have faith in ourselves. And for me, when I am living by The Seven Tools of Transformation, curiosity is an essential ingredient.
When I am looking for inspiration to ignite my curiosity, I go visit my friend my friend Becki Ginsberg Saltzman’s website, Living Curiously.
Becki works with people who want to learn to use curiosity strategically to make better decisions, generate new ideas, and live more fulfilling and adventurous lives.
Becki is not the only one who recommends risking curiosity. In her talk on Super Soul Sunday, Elizabeth Gilbert suggests taking passion off the table and pursuing curiosity. So many of us believe we should always be following our passion, and sometimes that gets us stuck. What is my passion? we ask. But if we get quiet and ask ourselves what we feel curious about, sometimes that can lead us to places we never imagined.
Please take the time to watch this short video of Elizabeth Gilbert, and think about what you are curious about.
I’d love to hear about what you are curious about today. And as always, thanks for taking the time to visit, I appreciate it.
Our mind is capable of passing beyond the dividing line we have drawn for it.
Beyond the pairs of opposites of which the world consists, other, new insights begin.
– Hermann Hesse
One of the things I love about starting a new year is making intentions. One of the intentions I usually make is to pay better attention. Which means that for the first few weeks of the year anyway, I’m paying closer attention to life, being more mindful in what I do. Wish it lasted longer than just a few weeks, but baby steps, right?
And along with intentions for the year to come, I love to look back on the past year and see what insights I’ve gained. One of my insights from 2014 is that I always feel better, more connected when I’m paying closer attention to the present moment. Another insight from this year is how much better I feel – body, mind and spirit – when I’m alcohol free. So once again, I’ve decided to abstain from any alcohol for awhile. This is not a new behaviour for me. Alcohol and I have quite a history. This isn’t a typical ‘New Year’s Resolution’ – this has been coming for quite awhile, I’ve been alcohol free for several months now. It just feels like alcohol doesn’t fit within the context of who I’m becoming.
I like reading the articles that come out in the new year about the ‘bests’ of the year that has passed. And I love learning about other people’s insights from the previous year. So it’s no surpise that my favorite article is from The Greater Good Website. Not only do I love that site! But the article combines those two things, the best of and insights gleaned. The article is based on the annual list of the top scientific insights produced by the study of happiness, altruism, mindfulness, gratitude – the science of a meaningful life. The article – The Top 10 Insights from Science of a Meaningful Life in 2014 – is wonderful. It’s well worth reading the whole article, but for those of you who like things put in a nutshell, here you go:
“Wrong does not cease to be wrong because the majority share in it.”
– Leo Tolstoy
When I watch the news or read the paper, I think I can be forgiven for becoming somewhat distraught. The world is in such a fragile, sad place at the moment. And after discussing this with my sister Karin, we both agreed that being “sensitive” women, open to the energy of the world around us, can be heart-breaking. What are we doing to this planet? What are we doing to one another? Why is this happening?
And going a step further, what can we do about it? On a large scale, it feels as though one small, insignificant person can do very little. It all feels too big. But that feels ‘wrong’ – I have to do something, even on a small scale. One thing that may not seem significant on the bigger scale, but I feel is very significant, is too keep “cleaning up my side of the street.” To stay clear and communicate through my own trials and tribulations to come out the other side. I had a confrontation with a good friend. It felt awkward and hard and it brought up a lot of old stuff for me, old childhood shame and feelings of being ‘wrong’ and bad. My immediate instinct was to lash out at her, but I knew after years of therapy and my own work, that that was ‘wrong’. So luckily, this friend has also done a lot of her own work, so we talked, we communicated through it. It was not easy or comfortable or fun, but it worked. We worked through it, dug below the incident to what it brought up, in both of us, and got through it. I still have some work to do around my own behaviour, but the communication through the difficulty, shattered the small prison of shame that I was sitting in.
This one small incident may not seem significant, and maybe it’s not, in the big picture. But it was huge for me for a couple of days. And no I’m not saying that if we could all communicate better then everything would be peachy keen, but on a smaller scale, if people communicated better with each other, and were willing to be real with one another, I think the world would be in a lot healthier state. But then again, I always have been accused of being a Pollyanna.
The short clip I want to close with may not seem to fit with this post, but I feel like it does, and I really liked it. A short TED talk about Philosophy in Prison. I enjoyed the construct of ‘wrong’ – and more importantly it reminded me of my son Lukas who is studying PPE (Philosopy, Politics and Economics) and who has been away in Edinburgh studying for the past 10 months, and I miss him terribly. So when I saw this clip, and I thought of Lukas, I smiled. So I wanted to include it here. After all in this very small universe that is my blog, I get to make the rules!
“The great thing about being the only species that makes a distinction between right and wrong is that we can make up the rules for ourselves as we go along.”
― Douglas Adams
I’d love to hear from you about how you handle ‘wrong’ in your life. And as always, thank you for taking the time to visit. I appreciate it.
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. We will not solve the problems of the world from the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”
9. Connect with your Higher Source for inspiration and support.
10. Transform and make the shift.
I have written many posts about meditation and neuroplasticity, two of my favorites are Your Brain on Meditaion and Meditation and Happiness. Meditation creates new neural pathways and brain changes. Many studies have been done to show meditation’s effect on neural circuits of the brain.
Richard J. Davidson, PhD, is a renowned neuroscientist and one of the world’s leading experts on the impact of contemplative practices, such as meditation, on the brain. He is the founder and chair of the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds at the Waisman Center, University of Wisconsin-Madison.
He is perhaps best known for his groundbreaking work in studying emotion and the brain. A friend and confidante of the Dalai Lama, he is a highly sought after expert and speaker internationally. Time magazine named him one of the most influential people in the world.
As Einstein so eloquently puts it – We will not solve the problems of the world from the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. And studies have shown the same is true with old habits we want to break. The way to change behavior calls for a different level of thinking than when they were created.
And finally the transformation. This is usually gradual and can often be frustrating not to see changes immediately. The important thing here is to pay attention. The changes may be subtle, but the brain is changing and so are the habits.
I’d like to close with a great talk by Dr. Richard Davidson. It’s a long one, over an hour, but really excellent. If you want to change behavior, of all the videos on neuroplasticity, this is the one to watch!
Transform Your Mind, Change Your Brain: Neuroplasticity and Personal Transformation
I’d love to hear about any bad habits you’ve broken, and how you changed the behavior. I’d also love to hear your thoughts on this video. And as always, thank you for taking the time to visit. I appreciate it.
“So often time it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key”
– The Eagles (‘Already Gone’)
Yes habits are hard to break, but as the Eagles remind us, we have the key to break those habits and stop living our life in chains. Continuing the posts on Neuroplasticity and getting rid of bad habits, looking at steps five and six:
5. Interrupt your thoughts and patterns when they arise.
6. Use aversion therapy.
About 20 years ago, I did my first Silva Method Course, and I don’t think it would be an exaggeration to say it changed my life. It is a powerful system to help people understand how to use tools to change their thinking for the better – and that includes getting rid of bad habits. I have written past posts about my experience at Silva.
Laura Silva describes using Cancel Cancel:
Cancel Cancel – This is the Silva Method technique I use more often than any other. When you go to your level, one of the post-hypnotic suggestions you can give yourself is that when you hear a negative comment or a pessimistic point of view, you say “cancel cancel” to yourself, and when you do, the negativity will have no influence over you. It’s kind of like a mental cloak of protection. For example, when I hear someone say, “Well that tends to happen as you get older,” I think to myself, “cancel cancel.” I don’t want to be influenced by such limiting or negative beliefs.
I use Cancel Cancel all the time, mostly for my own negative thinking. And after learning more about what Rick Hanson explains about Self-Directed Neuroplasticity, by saying Cancel Cancel, and shifting my negative thoughts, or thoughts about taking part in a habit I am trying to break, I know that I am shifting an old neural pathway and creating and strengthening a new neural pathway leading toward a more positive behaviour.
In terms of point six, instead of aversion therapy as described in the original article I read, I choose to redirect my thinking. I personally think ‘aversion therapy’ is harsh, but in terms of neural pathways and habit breaking, redirecting thoughts leads to the creation of new neural pathways and again back to Self-Directed Neuroplasticity.
If you have time, attached below is a fascinating set of slides by Rick Hanson explaining this process.
I’ll close with a YouTube clip of an old interview with Jose and Laura Silva.
I’d love to hear about any bad habits you’ve broken, and how you changed the behavior. And I’d love to hear any stories about how you interrupt your negative thoughts or behaviours . And as always, thank you for taking the time to visit. I appreciate it.