Parenthood – Truly Understanding Love


“What it’s like to be a parent: It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love.”

― Nicholas Sparks


What better lesson of real love than parenting?

I have just had an incredible two weeks with my husband Jeff.  Reconnecting and being together has been wonderful.  I have loved every minute of it!  But honestly, the most gratifying part for me was being able to parent together again.  Watching my partner, my children’s father, be together with our children again was truly the best part of our time together. Two weeks was not long enough.  However the time that Jeff spent walking on the beach with our boys, playing guitar with our boys and having conversations and connecting as a family again was priceless. The time flew by much too quickly, but it was rich and so heart-warming.

What can anyone say about parenting that hasn’t already been said?  It is the most rewarding thing anyone can do.  It is hard and painful at times, and the most joyous thing that one can experience.  It is Love in action.

In this moving TED Talk, Andrew Solomon explores parenting on a different level:

“What is it like to raise a child who’s different from you in some fundamental way (like a prodigy, or a differently abled kid, or a criminal)? In this quietly moving talk, writer Andrew Solomon shares what he learned from talking to dozens of parents — asking them: What’s the line between unconditional love and unconditional acceptance?”

 

 

Please take the time to watch this wonderful TED talk. I’d love to hear your thoughts on it. And as always, thank you for stopping by.  I appreciate it.

How to Resist Hate

“Hate, it has caused a lot of problems in the world, but has not solved one yet.”

– Maya Angelou


Listening to the news, reading the papers, I am often overcome with grief, and wonder how the human race has sunk so low?  How can we possibly begin to repair the damage we have created. How do we deal with a bully without becoming a thug? How do we resist hatred? One thing is for sure, as Maya Angelou proclaims hate has not solved one problem yet!

Scilla Elworthy is the founder and director of Peace Direct.  She discusses this idea eloquently in her talk Fighting with Non-Violence.  She believes that there are a few methods that do work to resist hate:

  1. The change that has to take place, must take place inside me first.  My own response is the only thing I can do anything about. And I must develop self-knowledge to do that. Elworthy believes that meditation is one of the best ways to develop that self-knowledge.
  2. Mastery of Fear – her mantra: “My Fear grows fat on the energy I feed it.”
  3. Using Anger as an effective fuel – If we can use our anger to fuel us, to empower us instead of control us, we can make real change. It is ok to be angry with the thing that is happening, but hopeless to be angry at the people.
  4. Change now happens bottom up, or “grassroots” – Working together and cooperating with others
  5. Using violence to change things is not only less humane, but less effective.  Methods that connect people work.  We need connection and unity.
  6. Courage and Committment

I think Elworthy’s Ted talk is hopeful and inspirational.  I encourage you to take time to watch it.

 

I hope you enjoy listening to Scilla Elworthy.  And I’d love to hear about how you resist hate.

And as always thank you for taking the time to visit, I appreciate it.